We all think—sometimes deeply, sometimes creatively, sometimes practically. But there’s a point when thinking becomes too much. Overthinking is the mental habit of going over the same thoughts again and again, often with little resolution. It can feel like being stuck in a loop, unable to switch off or find peace. And while it may look like problem-solving on the surface, overthinking tends to lead to more confusion, self-doubt, and anxiety.
What Does Overthinking Look Like?
Overthinking can show up in different ways. You might replay conversations in your mind, wondering if you said the wrong thing. You might agonise over decisions, big or small, fearing you'll make a mistake. Or you might dwell on worst-case scenarios, worrying about things that haven’t happened—and may never happen.
This mental noise can be exhausting. It can interfere with sleep, relationships, work, and self-esteem. Many people describe it as feeling “stuck in their own head,” unable to break free from a cycle that feels both familiar and frustrating.
Why Do We Overthink?
Overthinking often stems from a desire to gain control, avoid mistakes, or protect ourselves from emotional discomfort. The mind, in trying to help, ends up generating more thoughts as a way to “solve” a problem that may not have a tidy solution. For some, overthinking can also be linked to anxiety, perfectionism, low self-worth, or unresolved past experiences.
It can feel like if you just think enough, you’ll finally find certainty or relief. But unfortunately, the opposite tends to happen: the more we think, the more stuck we feel.
What Helps?
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Noticing the Pattern: The first step is becoming aware of when you’re overthinking. You might notice physical signs (tension, headaches, restlessness), emotional cues (anxiety, irritability), or behavioural patterns (procrastination, reassurance-seeking).
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Grounding in the Present: Practices like mindful breathing, movement, or focusing on your senses can help anchor you in the here and now. This doesn’t mean you ignore your thoughts, but you give yourself a break from being consumed by them.
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Self-Compassion: Overthinking is often tangled up with self-criticism. Treating yourself with kindness—rather than frustration or judgement—can soften the edges and reduce the intensity of mental rumination.
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Speaking it Aloud: Talking with a therapist can help you understand the underlying emotions and beliefs fuelling your overthinking. Sometimes what looks like a “thinking problem” is actually a feeling that needs attention, validation, and care.
You’re Not Alone
If you struggle with overthinking, you’re not weak or broken. You’re human—and possibly someone who cares deeply and thinks deeply. The challenge is learning how to work with your mind, not against it.
Overthinking can feel isolating, but it doesn't have to be a life sentence. If you'd like a safe, supportive space to explore what's behind it, you're warmly welcome to get in touch.